Who to be blamed?

I remembered an article wrote by Liu Yong, a Taiwan novelist who stayed in U.S with his family and his children were educated there. It was taken from the second book I read which written by him, named 'Rebellious Blood' when I was Form 2 and I read it over and over again until Form 4 when internet started to invade my life.

In short, Liu Yong is a writer and an artist. He could paint but I had never seen his paintings. The way he criticized the world with some humor elements made his writing attractive. But I disagreed the part where he doesn't believe in God. In fact, we became proud when we knew too many things which is actually little in God eyes.

I remembered he wrote a story. It was about a prostitute in UK who were humiliated with the description of her customers as 'big boos with small brain'. Eventually she defensed herself by entering a quiz and managed to get number one where she defeated students from Cambridge, Oxford and Stanford. But, she went back to be prostitute, a famous one and her business grew.

The reason she chose to be a hooker was not known. But she had a bad family background, that was the fact. Liu Yong continued to claim, he felt comforted to see his daughter practicing piano at home. He wondered what would happen to her daughter if he didn't become a good father.

And we had our Individual Oral Presentation today. A kinda compulsory test for the English class. Pn.T dropped a very tough topic, 'Infamous person through history'.

I did Hirohito.

But I was inspired to write when majority picked the serial killer as the subject.

Because there is one similar characteristic shared by most of the serial killers or so-called psychopaths, they were all from a sad family background.

They had drunken fathers or perhaps early dying mothers, evil stepfathers or stepmothers.

Liu Yong once raised a question which I point out the gist here.

'Who to be blamed when we had all those social problems causing people? Should we blame them or people who moulded them?'

Like a friend said during the IOP, it's hard to be normal when he had such father.

If we compare, a father who take parenting lesson long before the baby is born and another father who never wish to have a baby when he needed his time for gamble?

We would feel very anxious for the second baby.

As what shown on Desperate Housewife a month ago, [I watched it during convo break], the guy who hit Julie was actually having a drunken mother and a very disturbed childhood and adolescence. His mother was blaming his birth which caused her to end her social life earlier.

So, ultimately, he killed his mother as she pushed him too much by insulting him publicly and not recognized his artistic talent. But I didn't continue watching.

All I know, when we grabbed our fists seeing this kind of bad parents, did we ever notice our role?

There's a common phenomenon where people love assaulting those who looked weird and socially isolated, especially in group. The least they could have done, would be laughing at them and giving them bad nicknames. This is not hard to be found in any school. Cuz these bullies felt offended when weird people, geeks appear in their sight.

They couldn't understand why these people couldn't just act as normal as themselves cuz they never know the depression that hid inside one's heart that he/she had to endure each day.

We are coming from healthy family. Then, we wish to worsen the condition of others. We never knew we are the major factor which develop all those serial killer. You don't even know if this morning your weirdo classmate is beaten by his drunken father again.

Perhaps you never offend any person who looked weird, but we never care for people. We shake head when we see all those murder cases and we sympathize the victims. But at the very initial phase, we never go and ask, or give a pat on the shoulder when we see a down person, always walks lonely who later slowly begins his psychotic acts. It is the environment around him and us who build this up. We are the advocators, but in the exactly opposite way!!!

And it's true, this is a cold world.

Teachers were the worst. Somehow I wished, people became teacher for they really want to do something for the future generations. While canning all those weak and rebellious students, they forget to help them out instead, by finding out their talents. The main purpose to educate is not there, but achieving good grade is everything.

You would say it's rather dangerous to approach these mentally unstable people personally.

Well, often they are fine at the beginning.

You know what, those low competency children weren't really cannot compete. It's just that their confidence is taken away by misery.

Adult can really encourage them by placing them at important position, giving them chance to learn and at the same time felt respected by the society.

It's life, but not always a competition. I see some of the people who stress too much on win and lose, ruin the whole game. Outstanding children were often chosen. We forgot that it's teamwork.

In Christian, we believe it's satanic work. People hear sound, see things, being given order to kill......these are all driven by demon. And if a family is to be broken down or having mentally ill members, it should be a curse.

But, God can change that.

But how would these people get comfort or know about God when we, the Christians never give a damn? When we never care for the needy?

I'm constantly reminding myself for that.

It's not that you see the chance to spread gospel and being so excited to read him/her the whole Bible.

But you should be a good listener and while giving advice, show God's love to a person.

Don't feel that the world is covered by dark, but instead seeking light from God.